According to sex therapists, prioritizing your pleasure offers

New to Sex Toys? These Intuitive Vibrators Are Perfect for Beginners

Add this little gem to your toy collection and let the good times roll. With 12 intense power and vibration settings, there’s sure to be a setting that gets you off. And if that’s not enough, the vibrator is also waterproof for shower play alone or with a partner. Some of the household sex toys we recommend here aren’t specifically designed for skin contact (think candles, vegetables, and ice).

Then we scoured the massive pool of sex toy options (and read tons of reviews) to find the ones that hit a variety of pleasure points, and that can be used alone or as a couple. According to sex therapists, prioritizing your pleasure offers benefits for yourself, and thus, your partner. With regular use, they can elevate your sexual experience no matter what you’re in the mood for. Their texture feels nice to the touch, and silicone is nonporous, making it safe and easy to clean. Another popular nonporous option is a toy made of acrylonitrile butadiene styrene (ABS) plastic.

Other nice-to-haves include an intuitive button display, a travel lock, and a fully waterproof design (shower sex, anyone?). “If you’re looking for a versatile vibe that can be used on almost all body parts, the Tango X is the ideal option,” according to O’Reilly. It has seven vibration modes, eight intensity levels, and is super easy to use.

It’s both a clitoral and internal stimulator and is a source of “pleasure for both partners,” according to one tester. Grinding mimics the “humping” motion that many people learn to masturbate with (say, against a pillow), as well as the thrusting motions that people with penises do during penetrative sex. Toys elevate the sensation of grinding by adding vibration, texture, or other stimulating features. The noisy, room-shaking sex toys of years past have graduated to sleek viberators, high-quality, and near-silent designs that don’t sacrifice power for discretion. From suction vibrators that are all about the clit, to precise G-spot vibrators, to backdoor action anal vibrators, there are a ton of whisper-quiet vibrators that get you there without waking up the whole house. Cue the Greek chorus , this is the ultimate trifecta of suction sex toys.

“I really like the ones where the internal and external parts can be controlled separately,” sex writer and sex toy reviewer Amy Norton says. This sleek U-shaped vibrator is a game-changer for shared pleasure, according to our panel. The longer arm can be inserted into the vagina and used to stimulate both the G-spot and penis, while the outer arm vibrates against the clitoris. It has a motor at each end and nine increasingly powerful settings – from a gentle murmur to deep rumbling vibrations – for heightened pleasure during intercourse. The lightweight design and travel pouch make it a worthy companion for holidays, and it can be used in the bath or shower. The battery life (one hour) isn’t the longest, but this wouldn’t put our panel off using it time and time again.

If you do have this amazing little gadget on full power for 30 minutes on your clitoris—or whatever body part is your main avenue to climaxing—you’ll be inundated with orgasms. At just three inches in length, it’s about two-thirds the size of the original Vesper and Vesper 2. This sex toy does have a higher price than the original, but considering that my Vesper from 2014 is still working—it’s a worthy investment. You’ll also get to be part of a club of bold and fearless people who know that sometimes, the best place for your favorite vibrator is around your neck.